March 22, 2013
May 18, 2012
I know 2 posts in one day is something I haven’t done for years… But I saw something reminded me of sometime from the past… and of people i have met and heard of lately… so I had to write!!!!
So it was… A stranger on your steps. Looking exactly like a person you never wanted to inter your house. But you welcome them as you have been taught the ways to do so. You great them with respect you were brought up with. You offer them something to drink. You serve them some of your humble bread. You never ask them to stop expressing who they are and you study them without them noticing.
You like what you hear, you stop looking at their clothing at their hair and at their shoes… You look deep in their eyes and souls. You start smiling at them. You laugh at their jokes and agree with their statements.
Suddenly you realize you missed judged them simply for being different. You understand people can different from you are but still great to have around.
This reminds me of my one time work day with Circus Mundus Absurdus in Finland. It was in Imatra. Very scary people I thought… Horrible looking… Trouble act… And I was not comfortable at all around them. After the show they sat with me… Make up was removed off their faces… The blood was wiped of their skin… And funny thing was contact lenses were taken off to put on cute eyeglasses. Conversations started. Suddenly I realized I was talking to an amazing high degree university holder. We went to a club after where we were all invited as guests of honor and music started and it moved this man like I have never seen a white man move before to find out he was before his career a professional ballet dancer. Ballet, philosophy, kindness and sweetness were no what expected from men looking like they did. Well I was wrong! I realized I had the human’s bad habit to judge by look and say the book can be judged by it’s cover… I realized I was wrong doing so.
Today when someone comes by looking like … well I rather not use labels… I will simply say who am I to judge? And what if this person is much higher, more beautiful, smarter or simply much more good inside out than I would ever be? Who am I to call names people simply because they look different or come from different background.
Watch this video for inspiration… and think of all the people who judged her because she looked different!
March 9, 2012
So I was in bad car crash. Well how did it happen? Driving in highway with normal speed of 100km/h on left lane (if you drive as the do in UK wrong side of the road so think of it in the opposite lane which will be right for you)… And this driver suddenly appears from the right side of the road and has lost control of his car driving side way so not with the way nor opposite way. He hits the left front corner of the car I’m in and causes the car I’m in to spin and hit the highway barrier. Then he hits the car I’m in from the back where I spin again and finally hits me face to face.
I walked out fine, few bruises but no broken bones.
2 days after the accident I was back to work. As I felt fine just some ache in my neck but nothing that bad. Then come the day that I slipped at work, thank God had nothing in my hand. I fell on my left thigh and shoulder. I was fine some ache in my left knee and shoulder seemed nothing to worry about. Week later I suddenly couldn’t move my neck. I could turn, my neck has been so bad since.
After 5 Xrays… 3 doctor’s consoltations. I was told over and over I need to get an MRI scan taken as soon as possible. MRI??? Well all I know it’s this round cave like machine where people with cancer sometimes put in for check ups. I guess that was movie effect. I hate the idea walking through metal detector in Airports how about going to this Magnetic field of a cave? I am not bad claustrophobic but I do not like the idea of being in a tight place for over 20 min not allowed even to hum so no movement would occur!
Now battling with insurance company to approve my MRI but seems no way out of this one! But that won’t take more than couple of days.
My neck hurts SO BAD and those stupid migraines are not stopping! So here I am forced into small round tight cave and I’m not happy!
October 5, 2011
So I rented a car in Bahrain from a company Elite Car Rental. Under the management of Mr. Nader or Nasser Jaber Al-Dosari.
½ of the things in the car were broken and damaged. I chose the best between the worst I saw… I mean for BD180 for one month I was not expecting to rive SLR but at least a decent enough car. I was late for work at noontime so I had to make my choice really fast also.
After I have discovered ½ things are in total mess I told them in the rental office about it, they said I should bring the car and leave it between 8am to noonish for them to take a look at it and fix it… That and they won’t give me a car to use in these hours I’m already paying for.
I said I could not afford doing that as my lunch break is between 1:30pm-3pm. And no chance I can leave the car and walk to work… So they said if you wanted to change it then just come and ask for another car and we see what we have… I asked if anything was available that time on the spot for me to change and of course they said no!
One week later from my conversation, which makes it, around 2 weeks from rental date my battery stops working in the middle of the day… and if you don’t know how hot it gets here it was a good 45degrees. And I was stuck for 45 min in a workers neighborhood where men look for women could be found… As the tailor of Iida’s school uniform was there and I had to go to pick up her clothes. So me a woman with my looks, skirt over knees (length) in a business suit standing for 45 min and having men drive by and harass me by words stopping and trying to give comments and it was HOT time of the day… To have in the end a rude man from Elite Car Rental come to tell me the battery went off because I forgot the light inside open, when I told him I just drove the car here around 1 hour a go got down picked my daughter’s clothes and got back to the car and it did not work… so it was not a light!! He got upset and said ok ok madam what ever you say. They changed the battery and then I drove back to work.
Later that night, around 9:30 pm, I suddenly here strange noise and a park on side while I am in DANGEROUS neighborhood (as there was some trouble happening that day by protestors)… And so I got down to find my back left tire was ripped as if someone had been doing a drifting show on it. I called them to ask for help and they said they couldn’t come to help me as they are (MEN) afraid to come by the area where my car has stopped and JUST GET OUT AND FIX YOUR FLAT TIRE… I open the backs of the car to start trying to change the tire to find out they have not put a lug wrench into the car. Well I called Ali for help and he called a friend and I stayed with Iida at 10pm in the car in dangerous neighborhood just for the battery to go off again after 5 or 10 minutes. I called Elite Car Rental screaming my head off… I was showing how dare they have old tires not changed in the car for years at it seems and not even having a lug wrench??? How dare they pretended to have fixed my battery problem after the man who came to do it disrespected me and I was left for no less than hour in a disrespected area… And how dare they not even come to help a woman and her daughter who are stuck in their car because of their mistakes in a dangerous time in a dangerous neighborhood by saying just get out and fix your flat tire. (and just for your information that another tire was found totally messed up and flat up on pick up the car next day as tires were totally damaged and not less than 2 years old).
So Ali spoke to them as he was calmer than I was and the man Elite Car Rental told him that he will take the car in the morning to the shop and I can get another car to replace it, then he said for a apology they for the bad day with the car breaking down 2 times and for not having a lug wrench and also for not having a car in the morning to drive to work they will offer me a free extra day to replace the lost day.
I got a car next day it was bit better than the first one and I found out that they have actually had it from day 1 of my rent… same exact model but in better condition… But they never wanted to take their better cars out.
Yesterday I went to return the car after 1 month and 1 day has passed on my rental day. To find out I have been fined on the broken tire… Ok I know I have signed a contract saying if I damage a tire I will pay for it, but what woman at 2 pm in so much harry to get back to work would check if the tires of the car has been going through drift shows? I mean it was no less than 47degrees and I was wearing my work suit and I was sweating like a pig checking the car from our side from scratches and hits (which were quite many) and couldn’t wait to finish. THEY GAVE ME A CAR WITH DAMAGED TIRES and blamed on me. And I was told I have to pay for the extra day I kept the car for… So I had a peace of mind with Mr. Nader or Nasser Jaber Al-Dosari who from my screaming told me take the free day…
Well one thing for sure I have to say DO NOT RENT FROM Elite Car Rental!!!!
Update; When I was in the Elite Car Rental to return the car I met another person that his car been breaking up more than once and he has given up calling them and getting them fix it so he came to change it and agreed that Elite Car Rental are thieves and very untrustworthy company in Bahrain!
Another update; After searching a little about the Bahrain’s Elite Car Rental I found out that Mr. Nader or Nasser Jaber Al-Dosari gives special offer to special people. He actually allows the female prostitutes (which actually are working in hotels as prostitutes) to rent without any down payment except for special services they give him and rest of the rent which usually will be like 1/2 of the usual rent to be paid up on return of the car. So no wonder a man that is not making enough money (as sex don’t put food on his kids table) would try to manipulate and squeeze as much money he can from his customers (who are not prostitutes)!! So be careful if you are not a professional prostitute and can’t offer Mr. Nader or Nasser Jaber Al-Dosari professional SEX payment, do not rent from him or he will make you pay extra charges for any scratch that it was even put on the check up report which was written before you taken the car!!
March 8, 2011
يوم سعيد .ليكن اليوم فاصل في ازمنتنا التي تتباهي بحركية موج التمرد .. الذي لن ينتصر نهائيا الا متى تانثت القيم والتصورات والعلامات …لانه في تانثها تحرير لها من ازمنة الدكورة التي قامت على قهر الانسان وعلى استعباده وفرض خنوعه وخضوعه… ليس يوما للاحتفال فقط بعيد المراة ..بل يوم لغرس قيم مناقضة لقيم التهميش ورفض لسلط ذكورة لم يشهد تاريخها سوى على ما اثقل البشرية بالدماء والنهب واللصوصية والولاءات الزائفة
Good day. May this day be the dividing point for our crisis that are being showed off with the insurgency and rebellion waves… Which will not have a complete win (or success) until the feminization of the values, the perceptions and the signs… Because with feminizing them it would set them free from the male and masculinity times that got to conquer humanity by slavering it and by applying on it the imposition of subservient (obedience) and surrender… It’s not just a day to celebrate the Women’s Day… But a day to implant values that contrasts the values of marginalization (subordinate) and to refuse male and masculine power that its history did not witness anything but the great pressure on humanity with blood, looting, larceny and false loyalties.
This was written by a friend who is an artist and writer. An Arab, Male, very Masculine and older than 40 years, Married. So not a woman nor a gay man has written this paragraph.
Is it… Is it true if feminizing the rules and the Arab world it would save them? Well… It might be a good idea to apply or at least to try as we did in Finland and many other countries including US and UK… It seems to be working there!
For what it’s worth… I am proud to be woman! I am Proud of being my mum’s daughter who is a great woman herself. And so proud to her mother’s grandchild as an amazing mother of three wonderful women that make our family stand and made other families stand through the years… Yes a family of women and I am so proud to be one of them!!! True thanks for my very few male cousins in the women’s family for adopting the feminine values we carried on… Thank you for being proud of our strength and thank you for respecting us throughout the years….
Happy Women’s Day… Be proud of being one!!!
March 5, 2011
I don’t know… I can’t write about things happening in Bahrain as I promised to keep my pen down off doing that.
But what I can write about are my feelings… I feel so bad and sad for knowing about the F1′s postponement if not cancellation from Bahrain. I know other events will be coming. And I will somehow get to attend an F1 race this year but still it got to me!
I am feeling quite low these days. My weight has gone up as not as much movement. We are still going out, but not as much everywhere is quiet and empty!
I’m hoping to start a new job sometime soon. I need a visa and my boss has an excuse right on tip of his tongue every time the issue gets mentioned… now the excuse is the events and problems in Bahrain are preventing him from getting my papers done! Even if it means leaving Event Management and working in customer service for the visa I will do it!
My boyfriend is feeling low as well these days as the motor sports events been canceled and that is his passion. He also gained weight after quitting smoking and also after the movement got much less as well. This got him back to smoking again which I was sad but I do understand it… Finding myself asking for cigarette from someone just to calm myself down every now and then. Even if it maybe 2 a week it’s more than what I smoked before this sad events all started.
Iida also has had really bad time as her movement and going out is much less…
Hoping things get better soon!!!
Update; I know it’s been just few hours since I wrote this post… But it’s already been a better day. I love my man a lot and he helps me smiling… Dana (who is a friend of my man’s) and I guess now Iida’s friend and mine was lovely to spend time with and to share few feelings from the past that was difficult to explain to someone else who has not been through them herself!!! So glad to have friends here!!
December 1, 2010
I guess every one is wondering about Kallemne and what is happening there… Everyone is wondering when is it going to start working! Well the sad news is Kallemne will not work!!!
On Monday November the 29th, around 30 employees from the new advertising company Kallemne got out in front of the office building in demonstration and asking for their unpaid salaries!
The G.M who is also the C.E.O and the biggest shareholder of the company. Mr. XXX has not paid his staff for months. There are employees that haven’t been paid for over 4 months.
As a result. Many of his staff has been late paying their bills, rents, loans, and even their hairdressers and barbers. The police want some for questioning because of late in payments. Some are not even going back to their homes worried the authorities would catch them!
Some had to leave their university this year for not paying their bills for few months! Another’s finding hard time to keep their own families together as problems continued for quite sometime in their homes. And some of the employees had to fight for their kids as no money meant no food, any school and no hospitals!
But coming to the cases that hurt me most to know about. The foreigners who were working for that company were promised visa’s… every one of them got the approval from the LMRA but not of their visas was paid. So some ended up sleeping in the company car on the beach not to get into trouble with authorities. Others couldn’t put their kids to school this year for not having the CPR number, which is given to the person living n Bahrain as soon as he/she has working visa or long term permit! Some had to watch their kids get to over 40degrees of fever but not being able to take them to public hospital because they had no CPR number and couldn’t take their kid to private hospital because they had no money as no salary been paid for months!
And as it seems this whole act happened after a Saudi investor’s visit to the company on the same day. And as it seems the staff were ordered to keep a smile and play a role of happy employees that had nothing to complain about. So the investor would be convinced to invest his money in the company! And so the staff one by one seems to have taken turns to tell the Saudi investor what kind of a company Kallemne is. Some even told him that he was fooled and was brought to the company to get his money stolen by Mr. XXX.
Well good news is the Saudi investor did not put his money to the company. And also the police came to take Mr. XXX to spend his night in a cell before transferring him to investigations and will be taken to court! For the employees they were in the Ministry of Labor today to give their complains. Some will be taking a small part of their salary, but sadly not all!
The only sad part that had no good news is the foreigners who have no visa and might have to be kicked out of the country! I hope their issue would get solved soon. They seem lovely group when I had my meeting with them!
November 4, 2010
How do expect me to continue to work for a management that actually says: don’t say she is getting contracts because she is a girl and can use that with clients, there are places where they would love to have a man visiting them!
What??? Are you saying you want women and men in your company to sleep with clients to get you contracts??? Sorry… but that is not included in my work ethics! And i am not a Muslim… so those Muslims working for you, i have seen how religious they are and how high their work ethics reach; do you expect them to work as whores for you… for the sake of your company??? I’m sorry. But that is so unacceptable!
You are not helping them with the petrol needed for their cars, so they could go out and get you the contracts. You say everything is given to them… well they (me) worked for you since 25 of September. No money been paid to them since that day… where do you think they can manage to get you petrol to drive to go and get you contracts??? Should they offer their sexual services in this too???
How come you want someone to get a contract when me myself sat with a client and after the presentation he said: with all my respect to you Nora-Cassandra, but how do you want me to sign up a contract with a company that its owner has put out in market for sale? If the owner of your company doesn’t believe in it… do you really expect me (as a big business man he is) to sign in it???
When i asked him about your company on sale details he answered: If mr.X has opened the subject with me about 2 weeks ago and asked me what did I thinks if we would buy the company… so ask mr.X for more details.
And so i did. i called mr.X (another big business man) to confirm. And it was confirmed! He told me that you haven’t paid for your advertising campaign. You haven’t paid for the cars rented, nor the cars you have today. You haven’t paid your staff’s salary for over 4 months and they been working for you for so long time over 6 months and more some of them…
So again… you want your staff to pay for your advertising campaign, your rented cars, the cars you bought and for their own salaries by offering their sexual services to the world???
Of course I will walk out with my head up high and not work for you… any one with ethics and principles will do the same!!! Wait and see!
October 21, 2010
i am so so so sorry… i judged again… i try not to… i try to understand so i would not judge.
back to an old story my mum made me change a lot of my ways of thinking about whores or prostitutes!!! i remembered the story because once again after so many years i used that definition to insult a woman who is sleeping her way to top or to keep a good position at my work place.
sorry mum for doing that… sorry for using the name of whore in such situation! i know and still remembered what you said.
why do you use that word to curse someone with it?
it’s an insulting and bad job, that’s why!!!
well, you say bad and insulting job… why?
because the woman gets paid for sleeping with some disgusting man that she doesn’t even like most of the time!!
so as a single woman when you need sex (as we all do) what do you do?
i call a friend that i might be using for such situations.
the friend is out of town, what do you do?
go out with the girls and see if i get lucky and meet some good looking man i would use for some time!
and the good looking single young man, when he needs to get laid what does he do?
goes out see if he gets lucky!
so you, and the good looking young man would simply go out to see if you get lucky, maybe not first night but sure few nights out you would… right?
yes! but i don’t see what does this have to do with whores.!?
well you are 23… let’s say till the age of 40 maybe even 50 this will work… same goes to the good looking young man… ok… so what about a man that is fat, ½ bold, maybe some skin problem, ugly, shy and not asb young as you, but not old… what would he do when he needs to get laid??
will he get lucky going to a club like you or the young good looking man??
so he doesn’t need to get sex???
well… yeh… i guess he does!!!
so 1 month, 2 months, 5 months maybe a year or 2… he is not getting laid!!! what do you think he will do???
oh… who will he rape? a young girl most probably… maybe your sister, your daughter… maybe you!?
don’t say anything… just answer me. why wouldn’t you have sex with him so he won’t go out and rape??
i can’t sleep with someone i am not attracted to!!!
so you’re saying sleeping with such man is a very hard work??
so the whore… is doing this difficult job of sleeping with this man… very difficult job as you said yourself… keeps some women safe from getting raped… your daughter, your sister and yourself included… she gets paid for this amazing hard work she did… man is happy paying as he feels good, relaxed and over the moon at last he got laid… NORA-CASSANDRA!!! what is the bad thing in prostitutes again??? why do you use the name whore to insult someone???
i’m so sorry mum… never looked at it this way… i will never use it to insult a woman because i’m angry at her ever again!!!
ok… so i did that the last 4 days… i had 20 min prayer today asked for forgiveness from god and asked from the world to forgive me as well! the girl might be using ways i find unjust … or i find them dirty… and she might be doing things to hurt her fellow workers. but who am i to judge??? i have no right! no right what so ever!!! if she can get high that way and feels good about herself, then good for her. if someday she’ll feel guilty and bad hope she will find the way to forgive herself… again… i’m so sorry. i can’t judge you just because in my ethics i think what you’re doing is wrong!
October 4, 2010
good news about ALI DADI!!!! our 2009 karting champion! he has been invited to jiddah for the Toyota Tony Karting Championship which will be held in november but dates hasn’t been confirmed yet!
sadly as it seems his work refusing to give him an unpaid leave… but worse comes to worst i will guess he will give his notice to follow his dreams which makes me proud!
and the worst news is that he couldn’t get to race in bahrain championship because of not getting a sponsor! how sad it is knowing that a talented driver like him can get sponsors for races abroad, but can’t get any in his own country!!! where are the bahraini people from such talents???
well glad he is still smiling and excited about the upcoming race in jiddah!
good luck to our driver!!!
“It would be good to see Sarhan and Ali Dadi, the 2009 champion, run against each other in a field dominated by Bahraini drivers.” in Gulf Daily News the Seniors division winner of Bahrain’s Rotax National Karting Championship of 2009 the Bahraini Ali Dadi… this post is about him! starting by what i know he has achieved with his limited time, limited financial situation, the limited help he gets and limited support he has!!! He was the winner … Read More